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Buyer admits buying wrong part and I don't accept returns. How can this go?

Listed a throttle body and in the title I wrote 2012-19 Fiat 500 Abarth. Buyer says the electrical connector is different and doesn't plug into it. 

 

He sent me this polite message,  don’t think it came from a fait 500 abarth as the one you sent me has a different plug connector than mine. It should be a 2 row 6 pin connector and yours was a 1 row 6 pin connector. What can we do? Do you have a different one or should I return it? Thanks xxx 

 

So already he's fishing for a return. So then I ask him, what car is this for? He says 2011 Fiat 500 Abarth. Well  DUH! A 2011 isn't the same as the 2012-19 I sold. I was more polite of course. I'm not a junkyard so don't have another to send him. How do you think this will go down. Ebay messages clearly show he has a 2011 which I was not selling.

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You really should read my other posts on this thread that more fully


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No thank you.

 

I commented here in response to the OP and you started an off topic, irrelevant argument again.


Then stop assuming you know what they say when you do not.  And stop misrepresenting them as clearly by your own admission you don't read them.  Simply put STOP.  There is simply no need for all your assumptions.


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@mam98031 wrote:

@espresso_warehouse wrote:

@mam98031 wrote:

You really should read my other posts on this thread that more fully


🤣

 

No thank you.

 

I commented here in response to the OP and you started an off topic, irrelevant argument again.


Then stop assuming you know what they say when you do not.  And stop misrepresenting them as clearly by your own admission you don't read them.  Simply put STOP.  There is simply no need for all your assumptions.


I will assume whatever I want, especially if it's an obvious truth.

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@espresso_warehouse wrote:

@mam98031 wrote:

@espresso_warehouse wrote:

@mam98031 wrote:

You really should read my other posts on this thread that more fully


🤣

 

No thank you.

 

I commented here in response to the OP and you started an off topic, irrelevant argument again.


Then stop assuming you know what they say when you do not.  And stop misrepresenting them as clearly by your own admission you don't read them.  Simply put STOP.  There is simply no need for all your assumptions.


I will assume whatever I want, especially if it's an obvious truth.


How could you possibly know what the truth is if by your own omission you don't read my posts.

 

Now this is the end of this.  Post again on this or to me and I'll report it.  This is simply unnecessary and unhelpful to anyone but yourself.


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@mam98031 wrote:

@espresso_warehouse wrote:

@mam98031 wrote:

@espresso_warehouse wrote:

@mam98031 wrote:

You really should read my other posts on this thread that more fully


🤣

 

No thank you.

 

I commented here in response to the OP and you started an off topic, irrelevant argument again.


Then stop assuming you know what they say when you do not.  And stop misrepresenting them as clearly by your own admission you don't read them.  Simply put STOP.  There is simply no need for all your assumptions.


I will assume whatever I want, especially if it's an obvious truth.


How could you possibly know what the truth is if by your own omission you don't read my posts.

 

Now this is the end of this.  Post again on this or to me and I'll report it.  This is simply unnecessary and unhelpful to anyone but yourself.


I'm here to give the OP information, not argue with you.

 

Your demands that I stop posting and do what you say are noted. I am not interested in your demands though and I would prefer you just ignore my posts from now on.

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@espresso_warehouse   Stop posting to me, not the entire thread.  I have no right to make that kind of a demand, but I can ask you and I did ask you to stop posting to me.  Hopefully that is clear now.  I know you prefer to have the last word, but if we could just forgo that for now that would be great.


mam98031  •  Volunteer Community Member  •  Buyer/Seller since 1999
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Hi everyone,

 

This thread is getting a bit heated and off-topic. Please remember that, while it is fine to disagree with others, discussion should always remain courteous and respectful. Please bring the discussion back to subject established in the original post.

 

Thank you for your cooperation.

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@mam98031 wrote:

 

It is important to remember that as of the last time the OP posted to the thread, the buyer had not filed a claim.  It has all been just communication between them at this point.

 

The simplest way to likely resolve this issue now is to get the buyer to return the item to the seller without opening a claim.  The filing of a claim is not necessary.  

 

It seems that the buyer and seller are communicating just fine.  So @braus3449 , in an effort to avoid problems with how the buyer may file a claim is to just tell them they would take a return on the item.  Give the buyer their mailing info and see what the buyer does from there.  I've personally done this a few times over the years and it works out just fine.  It makes the buyer happy and the seller avoids a ding on their Service Metrics.


Yes, though they may lose their fees.  In the past, when I've done this, I've contacted CS for a fee refund & have been given one, though haven't done it in a long time, so not sure if they still do that.  

The other poster is incorrect that there is no opportunity for a remorse return, with a no returns seller.  Buyer absolutely CAN still open a Return Request, they do it all the time!  The difference is we can decline it, but they most certainly CAN open one.   But as you stated @mam98031  they don't have to open one, the buyer & seller can just work it out. 

This one goes to Eleven - Nigel Tufnel

Simply-the-best-for-you Volunteer Community Mentor
eBay Seller since 1996

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@simply-the-best-for-you wrote:

@mam98031 wrote:

 

It is important to remember that as of the last time the OP posted to the thread, the buyer had not filed a claim.  It has all been just communication between them at this point.

 

The simplest way to likely resolve this issue now is to get the buyer to return the item to the seller without opening a claim.  The filing of a claim is not necessary.  

 

It seems that the buyer and seller are communicating just fine.  So @braus3449 , in an effort to avoid problems with how the buyer may file a claim is to just tell them they would take a return on the item.  Give the buyer their mailing info and see what the buyer does from there.  I've personally done this a few times over the years and it works out just fine.  It makes the buyer happy and the seller avoids a ding on their Service Metrics.


Yes, though they may lose their fees.  In the past, when I've done this, I've contacted CS for a fee refund & have been given one, though haven't done it in a long time, so not sure if they still do that.  

The other poster is incorrect that there is no opportunity for a remorse return, with a no returns seller.  Buyer absolutely CAN still open a Return Request, they do it all the time!  The difference is we can decline it, but they most certainly CAN open one.   But as you stated @mam98031  they don't have to open one, the buyer & seller can just work it out. 


Semantics aside, I don't think it's fair to suggest an INAD is something we have to put up with if the buyer has already admitted it's a remorse return.

 

The OP was asking what to do. If the buyer wants to force the issue they certainly can, but if a remorse return is first requested and denied ESPECIALLY via an official request, trying an INAD after as an escalation is usually and should be overturned by CS.

 

Next level of chargebacks are not fun, and still leaves open to a neg. So I'm not saying it's easy, I am giving the OP information.

 

 

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@mam98031 wrote:

Stop posting to me, not the entire thread.  I have no right to make that kind of a demand, but I can ask you and I did ask you to stop posting to me.  Hopefully that is clear now.  I know you prefer to have the last word, but if we could just forgo that for now that would be great.


Mate, you just have to let it go, and stop feeding them............

It is obvious to most that some posters will continue on an on, even using the tag function to continue baiting you when they themselves requested you to ignore their posts.

 

Ignoring these types of posters is easier than trying to understand them, now I just sit back and watch the trainwreck LOL

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@espresso_warehouse wrote:

@simply-the-best-for-you wrote:

@mam98031 wrote:

 

It is important to remember that as of the last time the OP posted to the thread, the buyer had not filed a claim.  It has all been just communication between them at this point.

 

The simplest way to likely resolve this issue now is to get the buyer to return the item to the seller without opening a claim.  The filing of a claim is not necessary.  

 

It seems that the buyer and seller are communicating just fine.  So @braus3449 , in an effort to avoid problems with how the buyer may file a claim is to just tell them they would take a return on the item.  Give the buyer their mailing info and see what the buyer does from there.  I've personally done this a few times over the years and it works out just fine.  It makes the buyer happy and the seller avoids a ding on their Service Metrics.


Yes, though they may lose their fees.  In the past, when I've done this, I've contacted CS for a fee refund & have been given one, though haven't done it in a long time, so not sure if they still do that.  

The other poster is incorrect that there is no opportunity for a remorse return, with a no returns seller.  Buyer absolutely CAN still open a Return Request, they do it all the time!  The difference is we can decline it, but they most certainly CAN open one.   But as you stated @mam98031  they don't have to open one, the buyer & seller can just work it out. 


Semantics aside, I don't think it's fair to suggest an INAD is something we have to put up with if the buyer has already admitted it's a remorse return.

 

The OP was asking what to do. If the buyer wants to force the issue they certainly can, but if a remorse return is first requested and denied ESPECIALLY via an official request, trying an INAD after as an escalation is usually and should be overturned by CS.

 

Next level of chargebacks are not fun, and still leaves open to a neg. So I'm not saying it's easy, I am giving the OP information.

 


Well, it's not semantics.  You said there was no opportunity for it & that's incorrect. 

 

Further, the scenario you just described above is not possible.  If they have opened a remorse return & it is declined, they are unable to them open a SNAD return.   It's not allowed & it doesn't have to be reviewed, it won't let them open it.    


Sadly, as a no returns clothing seller, it is 99.9% of the time true that despite the buyer admitting a remorse reason, we DO have to accept it if they file a SNAD.   It's not fair that we have to put up with it, but it is the truth that we do.   Happens ALL THE TIME in CSA.   It has been several years since I've personally been able to fight one & win (just before the pandemic), even when they've admitted remorse.  I have not heard of a seller winning one in about 2-3 years.   It may still be possible if you get the right rep, but it's extraordinarily rare & even when it has worked in the past, the buyer still 'wins' too.   Many, if not most, of the SNAD issues in CSA are actually admitted remorse reasons.  If they checked a remorse reason, it doesn't matter what they've admitted in writing.    

This one goes to Eleven - Nigel Tufnel

Simply-the-best-for-you Volunteer Community Mentor
eBay Seller since 1996

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@simply-the-best-for-you wrote:

@mam98031 wrote:

 

It is important to remember that as of the last time the OP posted to the thread, the buyer had not filed a claim.  It has all been just communication between them at this point.

 

The simplest way to likely resolve this issue now is to get the buyer to return the item to the seller without opening a claim.  The filing of a claim is not necessary.  

 

It seems that the buyer and seller are communicating just fine.  So @braus3449 , in an effort to avoid problems with how the buyer may file a claim is to just tell them they would take a return on the item.  Give the buyer their mailing info and see what the buyer does from there.  I've personally done this a few times over the years and it works out just fine.  It makes the buyer happy and the seller avoids a ding on their Service Metrics.


Yes, though they may lose their fees.  In the past, when I've done this, I've contacted CS for a fee refund & have been given one, though haven't done it in a long time, so not sure if they still do that.  

The other poster is incorrect that there is no opportunity for a remorse return, with a no returns seller.  Buyer absolutely CAN still open a Return Request, they do it all the time!  The difference is we can decline it, but they most certainly CAN open one.   But as you stated @mam98031  they don't have to open one, the buyer & seller can just work it out. 


Yes, you are correct, however when you refund the buyer if you file a cancellation of the transaction too, you get your FVFs refunded.


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@simply-the-best-for-you wrote:

@espresso_warehouse wrote:

@simply-the-best-for-you wrote:

@mam98031 wrote:

 

It is important to remember that as of the last time the OP posted to the thread, the buyer had not filed a claim.  It has all been just communication between them at this point.

 

The simplest way to likely resolve this issue now is to get the buyer to return the item to the seller without opening a claim.  The filing of a claim is not necessary.  

 

It seems that the buyer and seller are communicating just fine.  So @braus3449 , in an effort to avoid problems with how the buyer may file a claim is to just tell them they would take a return on the item.  Give the buyer their mailing info and see what the buyer does from there.  I've personally done this a few times over the years and it works out just fine.  It makes the buyer happy and the seller avoids a ding on their Service Metrics.


Yes, though they may lose their fees.  In the past, when I've done this, I've contacted CS for a fee refund & have been given one, though haven't done it in a long time, so not sure if they still do that.  

The other poster is incorrect that there is no opportunity for a remorse return, with a no returns seller.  Buyer absolutely CAN still open a Return Request, they do it all the time!  The difference is we can decline it, but they most certainly CAN open one.   But as you stated @mam98031  they don't have to open one, the buyer & seller can just work it out. 


Semantics aside, I don't think it's fair to suggest an INAD is something we have to put up with if the buyer has already admitted it's a remorse return.

 

The OP was asking what to do. If the buyer wants to force the issue they certainly can, but if a remorse return is first requested and denied ESPECIALLY via an official request, trying an INAD after as an escalation is usually and should be overturned by CS.

 

Next level of chargebacks are not fun, and still leaves open to a neg. So I'm not saying it's easy, I am giving the OP information.

 


Well, it's not semantics.  You said there was no opportunity for it & that's incorrect. 

 

Further, the scenario you just described above is not possible.  If they have opened a remorse return & it is declined, they are unable to them open a SNAD return.   It's not allowed & it doesn't have to be reviewed, it won't let them open it.    


Sadly, as a no returns clothing seller, it is 99.9% of the time true that despite the buyer admitting a remorse reason, we DO have to accept it if they file a SNAD.   It's not fair that we have to put up with it, but it is the truth that we do.   Happens ALL THE TIME in CSA.   It has been several years since I've personally been able to fight one & win (just before the pandemic), even when they've admitted remorse.  I have not heard of a seller winning one in about 2-3 years.   It may still be possible if you get the right rep, but it's extraordinarily rare & even when it has worked in the past, the buyer still 'wins' too.   Many, if not most, of the SNAD issues in CSA are actually admitted remorse reasons.  If they checked a remorse reason, it doesn't matter what they've admitted in writing.    


The seller said they do not accept returns. That is definitive. Continuing to quarrel over that is uninteresting.

 

Maybe you've had a different experience than I have. But if a buyer has said a bunch of conflicting information before opening a clearly illegitimate INAD claim, CS has backed me up.

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Good advice to be sure, but often way too hard because they post incorrect information.


mam98031  •  Volunteer Community Member  •  Buyer/Seller since 1999
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@mam98031 wrote:

@simply-the-best-for-you wrote:

@mam98031 wrote:

 

It is important to remember that as of the last time the OP posted to the thread, the buyer had not filed a claim.  It has all been just communication between them at this point.

 

The simplest way to likely resolve this issue now is to get the buyer to return the item to the seller without opening a claim.  The filing of a claim is not necessary.  

 

It seems that the buyer and seller are communicating just fine.  So @braus3449 , in an effort to avoid problems with how the buyer may file a claim is to just tell them they would take a return on the item.  Give the buyer their mailing info and see what the buyer does from there.  I've personally done this a few times over the years and it works out just fine.  It makes the buyer happy and the seller avoids a ding on their Service Metrics.


Yes, though they may lose their fees.  In the past, when I've done this, I've contacted CS for a fee refund & have been given one, though haven't done it in a long time, so not sure if they still do that.  

The other poster is incorrect that there is no opportunity for a remorse return, with a no returns seller.  Buyer absolutely CAN still open a Return Request, they do it all the time!  The difference is we can decline it, but they most certainly CAN open one.   But as you stated @mam98031  they don't have to open one, the buyer & seller can just work it out. 


Yes, you are correct, however when you refund the buyer if you file a cancellation of the transaction too, you get your FVFs refunded.


Oh, that makes sense.  I wonder if I can do it after the fact?  Probably not, since I already refunded her.  No biggie, it was just a couple of bucks.  I guess I should have done a Cancel TX & not just gone in & refunded her.   If I try to cancel now, it will want to refund her again, right?  Or will it recognize that I already did so? 

This one goes to Eleven - Nigel Tufnel

Simply-the-best-for-you Volunteer Community Mentor
eBay Seller since 1996

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IDK, I never tried it.  But I've done returns without claims being filed many times.

 

Another thing I was told a long time ago by Trinton I believe it was.  If you are giving a 80% or more refund, Ebay will auto refund fees.  But I honestly have never tested it.


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