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Exactly when is enough ENOUGH?

So I sold a vintage doll outfit yesterday.  The buyer is fairly new at 141 and her feedback left shows she has no idea how feedback or eBay really works.  A few false/mistakenly left positives and a string of "how do you ship and does that include PO boxes?"  left AS feedback. 

 

She sent a few messages making offers on it and I replied I wasn't considering any offers right now.  Then she said she wouldn't have the money until 7/1.  I thought that was the end of it until she ended up buying and paying.  She said she "borrowed" the money.  Needless to say my hackles were already up.

 

Since yesterday I've gotten over 20 messages double checking that it was indeed vintage.  I responded with the reasons why I'm certain it is and if she was still in doubt I would be happy to cancel for her.  She would only say she wanted it if it was vintage.  Clearly my 25 years of experience in my niche means nothing, nor does my feedback which she is free to review to confirm that I'm not in the habit of trying to defraud anyone.

 

I can already see what's on the horizon.  She will receive it, claim it's fake, yada yada yada.  So to all the posters who say "kill them with kindness" and "turn them into happy repeat customers with your great customer service skills",  how would you proceed?

 

I'm one more message away from canceling and taking the hit.




Joe

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Yes I did report my buyer to every agency under the sun, including reporting him to eBay and PayPal.  My buyer was very savvy; he used eBay to have me pay for his return shipping and PayPal to get his money back.

 

 This is my story:

Buyer bought a typewriter from me.  The typewriter was package very well; I sold 3-4 of these same typewriters in the past with no complaints only compliments on the packaging.   The buyer contacted me after he received the typewriter, he claimed the typewriter was damaged and had missing keys.   I asked for pictures; he only provided a select few.   I personally packaged the typewriter; therefore I knew there was no way it sustained the alleged damages.   

 

 This buyer too like the OP's buyer kept messaging me before he opened a return case with eBay, (staying under their radar.) The buyer originally claims there were missing keys and the typewriter would not power on.  I forced the buyer to open a SNAD case with eBay.  I reached out to eBay and explained it was impossible for the alleged damaged to have occurred.  EBay required I send a return shipping label.  I paid $50 for a return shipping label from FedEx.    I got the typewriter back and discovered there were additional keys missing along with additional physical damage; however the typewriter did power on. I got the buyer via messages to admit to the nondisclosure of the additional damage that he did not report in his open return case.  I called eBay and reported the buyer had willfully caused/created additional damage to the typewriter.  EBay suddenly closed the case in neither mines nor the buyer's favor.  I began to realize something did not feel right; I repeatedly called customer service to ask what was going on.  Only after repeated calls, I was told the buyer did not have MBG.    The buyer then opened a PayPal case to get his money back.

 

 So in essence:  this savvy buyer knew eBay would not disclose he did not have a MBG and he used that to his advantage as an accomplish to have me pay for his return shipping. Because I complained about the additional damage after the return, eBay refused to step in or as we now know:   they could not step in since he had no MBG;   therefore he used PayPal to get his money back. 

 

 This happen to me over a year ago, I still have the unsaleable typewriter, this non-MBG buyer cost me over $150.00.  This is why I was able to see the signs that led me to believe the OP's buyer had lost her MBG.  

 

In the case of the OP, he protected himself by telling the buyer:  I am going to have the postal staff check out what you return to me, I will open it in their presence.    GOOD JOB OP.   

 

The moral of this message, the only protection the OP has was himself (even) when faced against a Buyer who had no MBG which which meant,  the buyer had a known documented trouble history.   Now that is outright scary!  I am writing about my experience in hopes, we, the system, the process can be made better. 

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@ersatz_sobriquet wrote:

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Joe doesn't know the buyer doesn't have MBG status to open a case. Joe only knows that if he doesn't refund upon return of ANYTHING, he will most likely end up with a closed case "without seller resolution". 

Joe is an educated guy. Joe knows the repercussions for not refunding the buyer upon receiving ANYTHING back, in most cases. 

So when Joe gets back the reproduction fake instead of what he sold, he would have thought that he can't win fighting the refund, as we have all been well trained by ebay. 

Joe deserves to know that MBG will not apply in this particular return request, and if that isn't possible, Joe needs a head up that he could have won a case should one have been opened without the dreaded case closed without resolution defect. At the bare minimum, Joe should be consulted by ebay upon receiving the return, asked if he received his item back in the condition he sent it, and then aided in the case that the buyer returned the reproduction fake as in the pictures the buyer uploaded to the return request. Joe shouldn't be left in the dark fearing the case not ending in his favor in that situation should he have tried to argue his case against a faulty return. 

I wouldn't want sellers to refund a faulty return out of fear and in the dark on the case details, would you? 

 


Joe would have processed the refund upon receipt of the original item sent because it's the right thing to do.  MBG or not, it wouldn't be right to keep the returned item and the money.  Heck if I take returns for 30 days for any reason, none of this other stuff matters anyway.  Item returned = refund.  It's just honest business practice.

 

It's when the buyer started all of this other nonsense with over 38 messages and loading a picture of the reproduction outfit (which I've never even had for sale), that I knew what was coming a mile away.  Fortunately she was scared off after I told her USPS would be involved as soon as I got back whatever she sent.  If the outfit she purchased from me was indeed anything other than what I described, I'd be showing less money in my PAYPAL account and wearing a ridiculous neg for the next 12 months.  Deservedly.

 

All of us could see she was setting up a faulty return which probably would have worked on a less experienced seller.  And that is the real problem.  It's just too easy to steal here.  Even with all my ducks in a row, had she sent back a used gym sock I would have been forced to refund.  No sellers are going to question whether or not a buyer's MBG privileges are valid before refunding because they are too afraid of the defects.  Only after the fact could I go the IC3/USPS Mail Fraud/affidavit from the mail carrier/police report route to try and appeal the decision.  And even then the outcome would still  be iffy at best.

 

I may have won this one but I'm well aware it was only on a technicality.

 

 




Joe

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If a buyer has lost their MBG  for the exact or very similar false claims that the OP's buyer tried to pull, ............ It still sounds like eBay by (non-disclosure or intervention) expects the Seller to try an work it out with the Buyer.  

 

Analogy:  A man or women has a documented criminal history of commenting burglaries, they are already on probation/parole.  This same man or women is now caught unwelcome in the OP's home and the OP puts up resistance, the man or women then files a complaint with the probation officer,   the probation offer never tells the OP, hey, this man/woman has a history of this.  The probation officer  tells the OP,   we simply need you to work it out with this man/woman because for we all live in this community.  

 

Conclusion:  Something is wrong in the community!

 

 

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@ersatz_sobriquet wrote:

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Joe doesn't know the buyer doesn't have MBG status to open a case. Joe only knows that if he doesn't refund upon return of ANYTHING, he will most likely end up with a closed case "without seller resolution". 

Joe is an educated guy. Joe knows the repercussions for not refunding the buyer upon receiving ANYTHING back, in most cases. 

So when Joe gets back the reproduction fake instead of what he sold, he would have thought that he can't win fighting the refund, as we have all been well trained by ebay. 

Joe deserves to know that MBG will not apply in this particular return request, and if that isn't possible, Joe needs a head up that he could have won a case should one have been opened without the dreaded case closed without resolution defect. At the bare minimum, Joe should be consulted by ebay upon receiving the return, asked if he received his item back in the condition he sent it, and then aided in the case that the buyer returned the reproduction fake as in the pictures the buyer uploaded to the return request. Joe shouldn't be left in the dark fearing the case not ending in his favor in that situation should he have tried to argue his case against a faulty return. 

I wouldn't want sellers to refund a faulty return out of fear and in the dark on the case details, would you? 

 


Yes, that is what I've been saying.  Maybe not as well, but it has been what I've been trying to say.


mam98031  •  Volunteer Community Member  •  Buyer/Seller since 1999

"I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you." Quote from Edward I Koch

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@ersatz_sobriquet wrote:

@Anonymous 

 

Joe doesn't know the buyer doesn't have MBG status to open a case. Joe only knows that if he doesn't refund upon return of ANYTHING, he will most likely end up with a closed case "without seller resolution". 

Joe is an educated guy. Joe knows the repercussions for not refunding the buyer upon receiving ANYTHING back, in most cases. 

So when Joe gets back the reproduction fake instead of what he sold, he would have thought that he can't win fighting the refund, as we have all been well trained by ebay. 

Joe deserves to know that MBG will not apply in this particular return request, and if that isn't possible, Joe needs a head up that he could have won a case should one have been opened without the dreaded case closed without resolution defect. At the bare minimum, Joe should be consulted by ebay upon receiving the return, asked if he received his item back in the condition he sent it, and then aided in the case that the buyer returned the reproduction fake as in the pictures the buyer uploaded to the return request. Joe shouldn't be left in the dark fearing the case not ending in his favor in that situation should he have tried to argue his case against a faulty return. 

I wouldn't want sellers to refund a faulty return out of fear and in the dark on the case details, would you? 

 


Joe would have processed the refund upon receipt of the original item sent because it's the right thing to do.  MBG or not, it wouldn't be right to keep the returned item and the money.  Heck if I take returns for 30 days for any reason, none of this other stuff matters anyway.  Item returned = refund.  It's just honest business practice.

 

It's when the buyer started all of this other nonsense with over 38 messages and loading a picture of the reproduction outfit (which I've never even had for sale), that I knew what was coming a mile away.  Fortunately she was scared off after I told her USPS would be involved as soon as I got back whatever she sent.  If the outfit she purchased from me was indeed anything other than what I described, I'd be showing less money in my PAYPAL account and wearing a ridiculous neg for the next 12 months.  Deservedly.

 

All of us could see she was setting up a faulty return which probably would have worked on a less experienced seller.  And that is the real problem.  It's just too easy to steal here.  Even with all my ducks in a row, had she sent back a used gym sock I would have been forced to refund.  No sellers are going to question whether or not a buyer's MBG privileges are valid before refunding because they are too afraid of the defects.  Only after the fact could I go the IC3/USPS Mail Fraud/affidavit from the mail carrier/police report route to try and appeal the decision.  And even then the outcome would still  be iffy at best.

 

I may have won this one but I'm well aware it was only on a technicality.

 

 


I don't think ANYONE was or has suggested that if an item is return that the seller should be able to keep the product and the buyer's money.  That wasn't the point at all.  And I also don't think it was even a consideration.

 

I think the point was missed.

 

I certainly understand what Trinton is saying.  Even a buyer that has lost their MBG privileges may have a very valid reason to request a return and they should still be able to do that.  I get that and I firmly agree with it.  The seller should process that request for a return and refund the buyer when they get the item back.  That is absolutely the right thing to do.

 

BUT when you have a buyer that has lost their MBG privileges file a request for return and are less than honest in the SNAD , ship back something you didn't sell them or in some other way are trying to take advantage of the process and the seller.  That is an issue.  

 

Knowing how the return system currently works on Ebay.  Most sellers would still process the request for return and refund the buyer when the rock they sent back was received.  They do that because the alternative will usually not end well for a seller.  In the current system when a seller tries to fight a refund for any reason, the seller will end up forced to refund once the buyer escalates the to a claim and then the seller will also get a defect.

 

If this was a request for return with a buyer that no longer had MBG privileges they wouldn't be able to escalate the request to a claim.  But there is NO WAY for the seller to know that.  So they will like choose to refund the buyer for the pleasure of having them return a rock to them rather than the actual product.  Ebay has us trained to do this because we currently have a no fault return system.  That means there doesn't need to be any fault whatsoever for a buyer to return an item and get a full refund.  

 

Chances are HIGH that this abusive buyer would yet again be rewarded with a refund because the seller can't know that they can't escalate the to a claim.

 

I am NOT talking about properly filed SNADs.  There are lots of perfectly good reasons for a SNAD to get filed.  Those should always be process in a timely manner and the buyer taken care of.  That isn't what I'm talking about here. 

 

 


mam98031  •  Volunteer Community Member  •  Buyer/Seller since 1999

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@Anonymous wrote:

A case cannot be opened if either member has been removed from the eBay Money Back Guarantee program, because they do not have protection through that program. The request would remain open until it closes automatically after [~30 21] business days.

So a seller can discover at the end of 3 business days when a case cannot be opened that a buyer has been removed from the eBay Money Back Guarantee program.

 

@Anonymouswrote:

A case cannot be opened if either member has been removed from the eBay Money Back Guarantee program, because they do not have protection through that program. The request would remain open until it closes automatically after [~30 21] business days.

And a buyer cannot ask eBay to step in at the end of 3 business days if a seller as a buyer has been removed from the eBay Money Back Guarantee program.

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@mam98031 wrote:

 

Chances are HIGH that this abusive buyer would yet again be rewarded with a refund because the seller can't know that they can't escalate the to a claim.

 

 

 

 


There's the problem. 

Joe's approach (should he have received the fake repro outfit back that the buyer uploaded pictures of) would result in an initial refund to the buyer and then Joe would appeal the case.

Too often I have read that CS tells the seller on appeal--There's nothing we can do about it anymore because you have refunded the buyer.

There is also the chance that ebay would issue a courtesy refund to the seller. However the faulty return buyer has already been refunded (and rewarded for bad behavior). 

We all know this is a catch-22 because the seller is trying to avoid a serious defect to their account that they have no way to know that they never would have received this defect. 

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Joe - these days I'm happy if they just don't leave feedback

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