08-08-2022 05:42 PM
I think most people that I block never bother with contacting me again once they figure that out (although I know some are still watching my items... those are the offers that are "not sent" after I try to send them).
This morning a buyer I blocked last week tried to buy at the list price (after pestering for a discount, I just had enough of them and decided I didn't want to deal with them ever again, so I blocked... I'm finding myself blocking someone new every week).
I got called a name which is slang in Indian English dialect to mean "unfair and unequitable person" for not allowing them to buy (at full price) when they decided to do this because they didn't get the discount.
Replying is rarely a good idea because it fuels the unbalanced into reacting further. I always found the most professional thing is to ignore this stuff (as far as the would-be buyer is concerned), and one would hope most would go away. But silently I'm thinking that the reason I blocked was because I didn't want to punish myself any further by communicating with this person.
When I was on the phones at work I'd get some confrontational callers who asked questions like "why is it when I called last week I was told" (I don't know what they were told last week, I wasn't there, I didn't talk to the person who said it to find out why they said it). And I just say "I'm not responding to that" and press on with the call. I have a friend who is the type of customer no one wants to deal with (to the point that he's outright unreasonable with some of his demands), and I learned what to say by listening to what people tell him when he comes unglued.
C.
08-08-2022 06:33 PM
Very sorry this happened to you. Just awful.
As maddening as it is, as unfair as it seems, the safest course is the one you outlined—the “don’t respond” response, because there are unhinged souls out there. They do not desrve more of your valuable time, or need an explanation of your actions.
Dealing with the general public can be very demanding. Sorry you crossed paths with such an unhappy person. Glad you have that maturity to deal with it so well.
08-08-2022 06:46 PM - edited 08-08-2022 06:47 PM
Had this happen a couple of times over the years. Don't respond, move on and ignore them. Life is too short to waist the time, energy and emotions.
08-08-2022 06:51 PM
I always respond with 'that's strange, I don't know anything about it' and since they cannot contact anyone and if they did and either got the truth or something else and then contacted me with that response, I just state the same thing 'strange, ebay has glitches so I just don't know what it is'.
This way, I didn't do anything, not insulting and not ignoring. Always worked for me (had happen about 3 times a year for 10+ years.
08-08-2022 07:10 PM
Seems like your Spidey sense was working and it saved you from having to deal with even worse potential problems if a transaction had actually happened. Pays to listen to that nagging sixth sense.........it's almost always right on the mark. I like how you handled it - quiet and professional disengagement.
08-08-2022 07:30 PM - edited 08-08-2022 07:30 PM
@sin-n-dex wrote:Replying is rarely a good idea because it fuels the unbalanced into reacting further. I always found the most professional thing is to ignore this stuff (as far as the would-be buyer is concerned), and one would hope most would go away. But silently I'm thinking that the reason I blocked was because I didn't want to punish myself any further by communicating with this person.
Make sure that the slide-switch option on your Buyer Management page is set for "Don't allow blocked buyers to contact me." (Scroll down the page a bit to see it.) I don't think it immediately blocks buyers with whom you have recently communicated, but will after a while.
08-08-2022 07:30 PM
Ahhh geez C another one?
If you have any communication with this buyer which I think you said last week you did, believe you have 30 days before BBL will take effect.
08-08-2022 07:59 PM
C I found an older thread that was very similar to your situation, I just screenshot the solution for you to view
08-08-2022 08:10 PM
I take it you didn't respond. If so, I commend you.
Yes i've had this happen before.
I just ignore and go on with life.
Like you said, the whole reason for blocking them was to not have to deal with them any more.
08-08-2022 09:50 PM
I don't think I've ever been contacted by anyone whose handle I manually added to my BBL. Pretty often I get contacts from people I've never dealt with before, wanting to bid on my auctions but being auto-blocked by my seller preferences against non-payer histories. I've actually granted the un-block request of a few of them, because they wrote with the humility of someone asking for a favor (not stating a demand, griping about my settings, or using txt spk like they can't be bothered to type full words, l mean dude srsly???). And the ones I've unblocked also had good excuses for their strikes or at least cared enough to make up good lies about them, and they had extensive good feedback, including left for sellers.
But much more often the messages and feedback only show me how wise it is to use the automated feature, and I just ignore those messages. I did get a good laugh out of a recent one though. It read: "Hello I want fight for your goods can you remove restrictions pls". I guess somehow they (or whatever kind of translator they used) interpreted auction bidding from the competitive point of view, like a battle that one fights, if allowed to. --Sorry Scrappy Doo, not when you've got only one positive feedback and you NEGGED THAT SELLER for something petty!
08-08-2022 10:41 PM
Only happened to me once when blocked buyer really wanted one of my covers. He hadn't paid the last time so was offering to pay more this time and pay sraight away. I didn't fall for it, once blocked they are blocked for all time and don't reply to them if they message in the future.
08-09-2022 04:29 AM
@stainlessenginecovers wrote:I always respond with 'that's strange, I don't know anything about it' and since they cannot contact anyone and if they did and either got the truth or something else and then contacted me with that response, I just state the same thing 'strange, ebay has glitches so I just don't know what it is'.
This way, I didn't do anything, not insulting and not ignoring. Always worked for me (had happen about 3 times a year for 10+ years.
I might have responded if I didn't know who they were or remember what happened (like their ID changed), and just figured I blocked them for a reason.
This particular would be buyer was pestering me about a discount on a coin and I just started to ignore him. After ignoring half a dozen messages he tries to buy at full price and realizes he's been blocked.
I think many buyers wouldn't bother messaging after figuring that out, but this guy did... and it's the first time that kind of thing has happened. (I don't have messages from blocked buyers blocked either because I like to read what people say in case there's something actionable about it).
C.
08-09-2022 04:31 AM
@a_c_green wrote:
@sin-n-dex wrote:Replying is rarely a good idea because it fuels the unbalanced into reacting further. I always found the most professional thing is to ignore this stuff (as far as the would-be buyer is concerned), and one would hope most would go away. But silently I'm thinking that the reason I blocked was because I didn't want to punish myself any further by communicating with this person.
Make sure that the slide-switch option on your Buyer Management page is set for "Don't allow blocked buyers to contact me." (Scroll down the page a bit to see it.) I don't think it immediately blocks buyers with whom you have recently communicated, but will after a while.
I know that doesn't work if you have recent communication (and there's other ways to get around it I've read). But as I mentioned in another post, sometimes a message has something actionable (like the time I had to warn the coin shop about a local customer that was giving me trouble here).
C.
08-09-2022 04:32 AM
@silverstatetreasureboxes wrote:Ahhh geez C another one?
If you have any communication with this buyer which I think you said last week you did, believe you have 30 days before BBL will take effect.
I've been getting new trouble every week... I think it comes with the territory of having so many listings... when I had only 1000 listings I don't ever remember getting this much trouble.
Well it's been 24 hours and I haven't heard from this guy since that message so I assume he's moved on.
C.