@the*dog*ate*my*tablecloth wrote:
If someone is offended by a bra strap then too bad for them. Too many women are judgmental of other women for stupid reasons imho. Much more critical than men.
Im 55 and I’m not going to adhere to beliefs from another century. This is not Victorian England and I also show my ankles in public. Guess that makes me a hussy. Lol.
I didn't use the words shocked, offended or hussy, or Victorian, so don't lay a prude label on me please I notice what people wear. I notice what I wear in public and think about it before I get in the car. Sometimes just before when I look down and go eeek!
I don't wear colors that I think aren't good for my skin tone.
I don't go out in shorts because I have severe sarcoidosis on my legs. I don't like to look at it and don't figure anyone else much wants to either, nor do I want to be asked questions about it by curious people some of whom might worry that it's contagious. It's not.
I don't go out in my jammies. Or harem pants. Or in curlers. Or housecoats. Or kaftans. And that's nothing to do with prudery or Victorian values.
I went to a funeral last month. Was my decision not to wear my jeans and a tank top because I didn't want to be judged by other women? No. It was because I didn't want to be judged by myself and come up short in the appropriate department.
When I was still working, I never used to participate in casual Friday because part of the pleasure of getting home from work, for me, was the ritual of getting out of my professional clothes and getting into my comfy clothes. Wearing those comfy clothes to work would have spoiled my ritual. But I did ask my staff who were meeting with an important client on Friday's to forego the casual attire - when you have a $1M contact on the line with a thus-and-so client, dockers and a golf shirt just doesn't help seal the deal.
I do notice outfits that clash or look unattractive (IMO) but then clothing is what I buy and sell, so if I wouldn't show a bra and and a tank top together on a mannequin (and I wouldn't) I'm going to notice it on a human being in public. I'm not going to point and laugh, say anything to them, complain to the manager, try to get them banned from the store, but my eye is drawn to outfits (on both men and women).
Likewise, as a seller, I wouldn't display a pair of white pants with dark thong underwear underneath. What target audience would I be trying to attract with pics like that?
I suspect somehow even the person I saw today wouldn't look at such pics in an eBay ad and think Wow. I gotta have that!
But I could be wrong. After all, that's what she was wearing. Still....I kind of doubt it.
Is that being critical or judgmental? And is that a bad thing, if so. I don't know anyone who isn't critical and judgmental about something. Those who deny being critical and judgmental of people are often, in my opinion, kind of in denial about it not to mention, being kind of critical and judgmental of the people they're saying are being critical and judgmental.
It's like people who announce that they don't see color. Unless they simply can't see, they're kidding everybody including themselves.
Everybody's a critic and a judge about something. Best not to be in denial about it, but also to try not to blurt it out at people under the fresh modern umbrella of being tired of political correctness so Call it like you see it. that's so in vogue these days.
Are woman more critical than men? I think that's highly debatable. But that's a longer discussion.
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