Look, sorry to have to tell you but you messed up in what you did! Please don't shoot the messenger! 😇
The point is that eBay has a Money Back Guarantee (MBG) and both you and the seller appear to not understand how that works. The MBG is one of the most protective for a buyer of any online site.
The seller should not have 'forced" the issue - when you asked to cancel the sale, they should have done so.
When they didn't cancel the sale, you should NOT have refused the package. When you refuse a package, you lose the Protections under the MBG. Instead, when the item is received a buyer could go to the Resolution Center and file a case for a return. There are "remorse" reasons for a return and in those situations where a seller has a 'no returns' policy, a seller is within their rights to refuse a return. However, if a buyer selects a reason that is a 'not as described' reason, then the seller IS required to pay for return shipping AND issue a full refund. Most sellers with 'no returns' policies don't understand the MBG and their responsibilities of what to do when returns happen - that their 'no returns' policy gets over-ridden by the MBG. They fight the return and often eBay refunds the buyer from the seller's funds and does not require a return. Seller suffers a MAXIMUM LOSS - loses item and the money. So this is why it makes no sense for a seller to "force" a sale.
At this point you could try opening a Case in the Resolution Center (link at bottom of this page) or contacting CS. Please point the CS reps to the emails where you asked the seller to cancel and they refused and shipped the item anyway. I suspect you will at least get a courtesy refund from eBay or they will refund you from the seller's funds.
Next time when you get in the middle of something like this, please come here and ask FIRST! We see too many buyers who "think" they are doing the right thing, only to mess up and lose MBG protections. Avoid that - ask for help here!
Good luck!
