@moondogblues wrote:
"I read something the other day that said, there is no way to break it gently to the heart when you cannot return its' regard. You will never forget him but I hope you will be at peace with yourself. "
That is just beautiful, thank you. Sometimes I don't agree with some of the things you post...but that was so nice. I wrote that quote in my notebook and will remember it always. And I am at peace with it now, though it took a few years. It was his choice, not mine. He was loved, but I think now, looking back, he chose not to see it, feel it, or believe it. There really was not much we could have done for him. It, and all suicides are just utterly sad. What a waste of a life.
That's ok~I don't expect everyone to agree, but I present truth as I know it and sincerely want to help. I always say, we can agree to disagree. That quote was from a book I read recently, the situation was in Victorian times, and a young man proposed to a young lady who did not love him, saying that if she did not marry him, he would take his life. He didn't but she was afraid he might, and another young man, who loved her, said that to her~ultimately we are not responsible for the actions of others, we cannot be forced to love when our hearts are not in love. We can love each other on a different level, but not on that one. Life looks very different to those looking in from the outside. Any loss of life at one's own hand is very sad~inevitably leaving guilt for those who knew him~and he was so young, with his whole life before him. Who knows what impact he may have made, what a loss. I have also read that if someone is determined, they generally can't be stopped. Someone I know visited a friend recently, only to find him on the floor in a pool of blood. He got help fast, and that person is now in the hospital. Many battle with despair and guilt. I am so glad you have made peace with this, and I am so thankful that those words had such meaning for you, and I thank God for the peace that you have found.
