How can I ask this?

[barely_tan_gerbil]

I want my seller to give me the option to "Request Total  from Seller", after I load up my cart.  My issue is, she has the make offer button active on all the items I want to buy.  I want to make Best Offer and have them ship together (it's clothing) to take advantage of a small shipping discount through combined shipping.

I previously purchased 9 items using best offer on each.  The seller accepts the best offer on each separate listing which includes each separate shipping cost.  Then she refunds me 9 separate times. 

Is there a way for me to say I'll offer the same price for each blouse or whatever it is, which she has already told me she finds agreeable, but allow me to pay once after she makes the adjustment for the combined shipping?

If I make offer, she accepts it along with the shipping cost.  That's how I get charged up front for shipping 9 x over.  Then only after does she make shipping calculations and then issue me the separate refunds.

I'd really like to avoid the refunding altogether, just have her adjust the total - so that's why I need help knowing if this is a doable thing (to make several offers, but request total from cart,,, leaves me scratching my head how to do this).

Can anybody help me streamline what we are doing?  I want to offer $30 each piece instead of $35, plus she discounts the shipping a little bit.  I don't expect it to be even across the board, cost wise, because shipping has to reflect reality of weight etc.  Thank you all.

[wastingtime101]

Hi @anjie234 - you chopped off the other part of that statement with your quote:

Another option is the seller can set up automatic combined shipping rules so there's no need to request a total, but if she's an old-school seller she may be resistant to that kind of change. [...] That would need to be done in conjunction with a discount or lowered item price because, as I mentioned, offers are independent so even automatic combined ship rules won't apply.

Bottom line: Offers operate independently from everything else so you will never be able to do what you want with offers. eBay designed them as stand-alone deals, not intended for bundling, and not working with other discounts. Years ago eBay said they were working on a bulk offer option, but then we never heard anything more. I think it was scrapped either for other priorities or because the process was more complex than anticipated with the myriad of settings sellers can choose. 🤷