Very sorry for your troubles. If you could clarify some things, it would help us better help you.
"...after such a positive experience with him he then began to communicate with a buyer who didn't bid the entire time and slandered me along with deformation of character swearing and calling me scammer, when i had to confirm payday and a bank account snd they they all started to communicate and now the buyer refuses to pay for the item and he is now calling me names and posting things to decently hurt now any further auctions,so i am asking does anyone know what i should do?"
As another poster pointed out, only you can see the user names of your bidders, so there is no way for customers to contact each other during an auction. Bidders' user names are private and anonymous to everyone but the seller. Where are the bidders posting hurtful things about you? Why are they denigrating you?
There is no way to force a buyer to pay. If they refuse to remit after winning the auction, you have to open a Unpaid Item Dispute when 48 hours are passed since the close of auction. This is how you get your Final Value Fees reimbursed, since eBay automatically assesses their fees at the end of the auction, even if the buyer doesn't pay. Here is a link on how to open the dispute: https://www.ebay.com/help/policies/payment-policies/unpaid-item-policy?id=4271
You might still be able to sell your item. I see you had 9 bidders on the Gretzky sports card. After you close the Unpaid Item Dispute, if the buyer doesn't pay, you can offer the next highest bidder the card as a Second Chance Offer. Here is a link on how to do that: https://www.ebay.com/help/selling/listings/selling-auctions/making-second-chance-offers?id=4142
A word about your eBay activity: Start small when learning the Ebay ropes. Right now you are risking high dollar items while you are still learning how to use the platform. Like another poster warned, it is easy to get scammed out of expensive things on eBay. You need to read the policies on the eBay Money Back Guarantee and the PayPal Buyer Protection program.
There are a lot of rules here, and you are at an extreme disadvantage if you don't know them. For example, like another poster said, any item that sells for more than $750 must be shipped with signature confirmation. Without it, a fraudulent buyer can claim Item Not Received and you would lose both your funds and your item.
So while you are learning how to use eBay, I strongly recommend you list less expensive items to lower the risk of selling online. Right now you could be setting yourself up to fail by attracting potential scammers to your listings. You even mentioned in your listing description for the Gretzky card that you didn't know how to upload the photos. This reveals you are a beginner with limited professionalism. It won't inspire customer confidence and suggests you don't yet know what you are doing. You might build up some feedback by buying some staples on eBay so it appears you have some history of transactions. It's just that a zero feedback seller with very expensive items whose account was opened a few days before could be a scammer magnet. So learn how to use eBay first, sell pricey items later. Much later. Good luck to you. Come back to the boards with any questions or concerns.
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