01-09-2024 08:04 PM
I am having an issue with a buyer who bought a sweater from me where I listed the correct size and measurements. He’s saying it’s too tight and requested a return for doesn’t fit. I declined the return saying that I listed all measurements and pictures showing the measurements and size on the tags. I feel it’s just a buyer’s remorse purchase and wanting to get his money back after using it for the holidays. How can I protect myself going forward from here when he realizes that I was able to decline the doesn’t fit return? Would he still be able to open another return request and choose item not described to force me to accept the return?
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01-16-2024 07:12 PM
HaHaHa, there is no allowance for sellers to deny, I've never seen a remorse claim, they just call it something else. No ebay has left the building...
01-16-2024 07:15 PM
@baydealz wrote:'Should you?' Has a buyer ever admitted for remorse? I would accept that return just for his honesty. Even if it is remorse or finding a better price, they just make stuff up. Ebay has ruined the trading relationship. Yes, good description and lots of photos, and it's still never enough. The scammers look for the gotchas. And you're on your own as a seller, it's a crap shoot, some people like gambling, I'm tired of it. 24 years and I'm now giving stuff away. Let others play with this sinking ship.
What's your ratio? I see no less than 50% **bleep** in one way or another (either trying to get another item, money back or return).
I sell mostly clothing and take returns for any reason - my return rate is about 3%. And the vast majority of people are honest with a remorse return.
01-16-2024 07:16 PM
Fair enough, but you tried on at store, and didn't ask Burlington to then cover your gas to go over and the time it took you to try on. Hopefully they then didn't get a mark for 'transaction defect.' I don't dare sell clothes on ebay, I have on Poshmark (which doesn't allow returns, though I'd accept, especially if I could reclaim my initially shipping (many retailers have restocking fees, even if you provide the label), but ebay thinks we little guys should be Amazon.
01-16-2024 11:10 PM
@baydealz wrote:'Should you?' Has a buyer ever admitted for remorse? I would accept that return just for his honesty. Even if it is remorse or finding a better price, they just make stuff up. Ebay has ruined the trading relationship. Yes, good description and lots of photos, and it's still never enough. The scammers look for the gotchas. And you're on your own as a seller, it's a crap shoot, some people like gambling, I'm tired of it. 24 years and I'm now giving stuff away. Let others play with this sinking ship.
What's your ratio? I see no less than 50% **bleep** in one way or another (either trying to get another item, money back or return).
Yes they have. Certainly some buyers will select a different reason in the hopes they will not have to pay return shipping, but yes there are honest buyers out there that select an accurate reason.
I simply stated the rules. It is up to each seller to decide what direction they want to go.
What is my ratio for what? Return rate?
01-16-2024 11:18 PM
@baydealz wrote:HaHaHa, there is no allowance for sellers to deny, I've never seen a remorse claim, they just call it something else. No ebay has left the building...
Well yes there is, because you aren't aware of it doesn't mean it does exist, it simply means you aren't aware of it.
You not ever seeing a Buyer Remorse claim is a separate issue, one none of us can help you with.
When the seller doesn't offer returns, or a remorse return request falls outside the seller's return window, the seller may exercise their discretion to accept or deny the return. If the seller chooses to accept the return, this will then be treated as if they had offered returns in the listing.
01-17-2024 05:41 AM
True, but I think the point I'm trying to make isn't coming through the way I think I'm trying to make it...
Clothes don't always fit.. even though they are the "right size" or "correct measurements". At a store, we have the ability to "try before we buy".
When we go to a B&M store, we can try clothes on. When we buy on-line, we undoubtedly CAN get requests for return and refund, because when someone gets an article of clothing ordered, it may not fit right, despite the measurements or size being provided
01-17-2024 02:36 PM
And even trying clothing on in a store is no guarantee of satisfaction - I've gotten something home and realised that it's just not going to work out after all.
01-17-2024 03:35 PM
@baydealz wrote:HaHaHa, there is no allowance for sellers to deny, I've never seen a remorse claim, they just call it something else. No ebay has left the building...
If you had a return policy, you would probably see some returns for remorse. It allows for a buyer to be honest. I can say that approximately eighty percent of my returns are for remorse. I’m not a big seller, though.
02-09-2024 07:01 AM
These are your options :
-Accept the return.
-Send a label and once you receive it, refund in full. eBay will refund the fees.
-Refund the buyer now and eBay will refund the fees. You will not get the item back but do not have to pay return shipping.
-Or do nothing, eBay will refund the buyer and allow them to keep the item. You will most probably get a negative fb. eBay will keep all fees and give you a seller defect.
02-09-2024 11:52 AM
@junkinabox wrote:These are your options :
-Accept the return.
-Send a label and once you receive it, refund in full. eBay will refund the fees.
-Refund the buyer now and eBay will refund the fees. You will not get the item back but do not have to pay return shipping.
-Or do nothing, eBay will refund the buyer and allow them to keep the item. You will most probably get a negative fb. eBay will keep all fees and give you a seller defect.
"-Send a label and once you receive it, refund in full. eBay will refund the fees." Unless the item you get back has been damaged or meets one of the other reasons a seller can reduce the amount refunded to the buyer.
What you have stated is true for a seller with a return policy of 30+ days with buyer pays shipping or Seller pays shipping.
However if the seller had a no return policy and the buyer filed the INAD saying it doesn't fit, that is a proper Buyer Remorse return and the seller can choose to deny it or process it. Seller choice.
02-09-2024 12:05 PM - edited 02-10-2024 12:05 AM
@mam98031 wrote:
@junkinabox wrote:These are your options :
-Accept the return.
-Send a label and once you receive it, refund in full. eBay will refund the fees.
-Refund the buyer now and eBay will refund the fees. You will not get the item back but do not have to pay return shipping.
-Or do nothing, eBay will refund the buyer and allow them to keep the item. You will most probably get a negative fb. eBay will keep all fees and give you a seller defect.
"-Send a label and once you receive it, refund in full. eBay will refund the fees." Unless the item you get back has been damaged or meets one of the other reasons a seller can reduce the amount refunded to the buyer.
What you have stated is true for a seller with a return policy of 30+ days with buyer pays shipping or Seller pays shipping.
However if the seller had a no return policy and the buyer filed the INAD saying it doesn't fit, that is a proper Buyer Remorse return and the seller can choose to deny it or process it. Seller choice.
Nope, "Send a label and once you receive it, refund in full. eBay will refund the fees." is always true, regardless the return policy.
Sorry, but this additional discussion would have been fine were it not for the "is true ... however if" vector maligning the poster, to restate what already is true.
02-09-2024 12:23 PM
@rseuqinh wrote:
@mam98031 wrote:
@junkinabox wrote:These are your options :
-Accept the return.
-Send a label and once you receive it, refund in full. eBay will refund the fees.
-Refund the buyer now and eBay will refund the fees. You will not get the item back but do not have to pay return shipping.
-Or do nothing, eBay will refund the buyer and allow them to keep the item. You will most probably get a negative fb. eBay will keep all fees and give you a seller defect.
"-Send a label and once you receive it, refund in full. eBay will refund the fees." Unless the item you get back has been damaged or meets one of the other reasons a seller can reduce the amount refunded to the buyer.
What you have stated is true for a seller with a return policy of 30+ days with buyer pays shipping or Seller pays shipping.
However if the seller had a no return policy and the buyer filed the INAD saying it doesn't fit, that is a proper Buyer Remorse return and the seller can choose to deny it or process it. Seller choice.
Nope, "Send a label and once you receive it, refund in full. eBay will refund the fees." is always true, regardless the return policy.
Sorry, but this additional discussion would have been fine were it not for the "is true" vector maligning the poster.
Let me start off with your final statement. IDK what you are talking about. I did not "malign" the poster. I didn't make it personal nor was I rude to the other poster. To simply disagree with someone doesn't equal "maligning" them.
What I stated above is true and correct. You can locate this in the MBG policy.
Hopefully this will help. At least it is intended to.
If the listing states that the seller offers returns, the buyer may return the item for any reason, including if they change their mind about the item ("remorse" returns).
When a buyer requests a return within the seller's return policy, the seller must allow them to return the item for a full refund. The seller may exclude original shipping costs from the refund.
When the seller doesn't offer returns, or a remorse return request falls outside the seller's return window, the seller may exercise their discretion to accept or deny the return. If the seller chooses to accept the return, this will then be treated as if they had offered returns in the listing.
Both buyers and sellers must meet all applicable return requirements. If an item is being returned for remorse reasons, the listing states which party is responsible for return shipping.
03-17-2025 05:11 PM - edited 03-17-2025 05:12 PM
Hi guys,
What should I do as I got return from a buyer because he said the shirt is too big. To be specific, I sold a football shirt. I made sure it was clear in the picture and made sure the buyer read the description. I didn't put a specific measurement in the description. Surely, when it comes to football shirts most people should know their sizes. Btw, the size is XL Nike R9 football shirt replica. Should I give a full refund or a partial refund.
Thank you in advance
03-17-2025 05:35 PM - edited 03-17-2025 05:35 PM
Go to the UK boards and ask.
For some reason eBay directs everyone to these USA boards.
Start your own thread, though. Adding on to an old thread gets confusing.
03-17-2025 05:46 PM
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