I refunded a buyer immediately and told them they didn't have to return it If they return it I'll get charged for the label They asked me if it "OK" not to return it. I'm guessing they think they'll get in trouble with ebay. So do they have to return if I refunded them already and don't want them to?

nope. they do not need to return it if you refunded already and told them not to send it back.

Does a buyer have to return an item if I don't want them to | Selling

Does a buyer have to return an item if I don't want them to | Selling | eBay Community