So I got a neg...

[mforjan]

Just wanted to commiserate knowing you all would understand how I feel. This is the closed listing:

https://www.ebay.com/itm/274571294898?ssPageName=STRK:MESOX:IT&_trksid=p3984.m1561.l2649

Not jools which is good. No word from the buyer before leaving the neg, he left it before requesting the return.

Then yesterday I got this from him:

After the return and I am refunded, you may request a feedback revision from EBay and I may change it.

I was thinking of replying:

If revising the feedback is the right thing to do I shouldn't have to request it. Revise it or not, it's up to you.

In the mean time I have blocked him 😟

[treasureislandpearls]

yes, you could get ebay to remove, if you don't mind the wait on hold..  I have ha past issues, and they have been very good about taking care of a similar situation.  a well, you could ask the buyer, almost sounds like the buyer was holding your feedback as ransom, offering to retract after the refund !

[flipping_treasures]

Sorry about the negative Marie.  

I got my first ever negative about a year ago.  So after 20+ years of selling along came this nasty buyer.  No communication no nothing, just out of the blue a negative.

Since I inspect every piece that goes out of here AND package items in such a way that if a stone were to come out during shipping it would just be loose in the container.   Anyway this buyer lied and I had the pictures to prove it.  After ugly emails which were geared toward a partial refund, I held strong to my no return policy and finally had to contact eBay to stop her from contacting me.  I ate the negative, put her on my no bidder list and went on with life.  It just wasn't worth the trouble.  I replied to her feedback truthfully.

I  can also say it really hasn't effected my sells at all.

[iamonourside]

Bravo to you, @mforjan  for having the wisdom to see the bigger picture.

I agree, let the negative stand as a reflection on the buyer. 

The buyer seems like a professional at feedback extortion. Ebay publishes the number of feedback revisions on feedback received. Be interesting to see that number on feedback left as well.

[mforjan]

Thinking more about his use of "may" I bet he got in trouble for feedback extortion in the past and is careful to say he "may revise" rather than he will.

He is saying I should request a revision his feedback left, not received, so can I find out how many feedbacks that he left have been revised?